“You’ve been fighting so hard to mend what’s broken inside you—to glue the broken, shattered parts back together. But what if healing isn’t about fixing? What if it’s about loving those broken parts enough to let them breathe. Healing is not a race or a checklist to complete. It’s a quiet process of learning to sit with your pain, to let the raw edges of your wounds soften overtime. Instead of rushing to feel better, give yourself the grace to be where you are. You don’t have to have it figured out now. When you stop trying to fix every flaw and start accepting your imperfections as part of your growth, that’s where the real healing happens—in the deep breaths. You don’t need to be fixed. You need to be patient with yourself. Healing begins when you truly start loving yourself.”  @philosophaire_

We try to fix our wrinkles, our image, our moods, our relationships… But is that really what we want? For everything to be “fixed”?

To look 20 years younger and 10 pounds leaner, to be sharper and more popular, and to live an eternally exciting, teemingly successful and luxuriant life—is that really it? Is that what will make us whole?

Have we not noticed? AI-generated “people” are off-putting, disturbing. We may as well admit it. There is nothing truly fascinating about perfection, nothing intriguing about perfect symmetry. The idea of an encyclopedic mind or perfectly eloquent tongue is frankly quite dull and daunting. And Barbie? Well, the Hollywood film starring Margo Robbie makes it perfectly clear that perfect is flat, predictable, lifeless, and uninspiring.

And what about what makes a work of art truly captivating? No art philosopher or critic will ever declare that its flawlessness is what draws us in. All but so. It is actually the oddities and mysterious depth, the perplexing contrast and unexpected details that draw us in and leave us moved. For without these elements, art would feel ordinary, dull, unmoving—basically, something of a showroom mannequin.

There is a paradox to healing. The parts of ourselves we’ve been fighting so hard to erase are actually the ones that make us extraordinary, inspiring, intriguing and relatable. Healing isn’t about restoring what we’ve lost or are missing. Healing is about reimagining who we are with what we have. It’s about piecing together our pain, joy, imperfections, and resilience into a beautiful masterpiece hodgepodge only we can create.

Fooey with “fixing.” Why are we striving to be untouchable? We’re already an intriguing masterpiece in the making. Already a living, breathing work of art. So GO. Take yourself out for a celebratory glass of wine. And toast to every mundane, clingy, insecure, and supposedly unloveable part of yourself. GO AND FEEL AWESOME, cuz you are.