Wanna know something interesting? In this hyper-demanding hyper-consuming hyper-stressed world that we live, there exists a word—a simple word—which holds a unique power to handle it all. In the face of contention or discomfort, I can’t think of an easier or wiser tool than just 3-syllables. When used as a seemingly simple response, somehow it is versatile and complete. It can manage conversations; reduce conflict; it can even foster a deeper understanding. Curiously, it begins with an 👁️ and ends with a “gee” 🤔. So here is why, dear Interested Sage, responding with “interesting” should interest you:

It creates a “cool” pause for reflection

When we respond with “interesting,” it creates a brief moment of pause in the conversation. This pause can be powerful, as it allows both ourself and whom we are speaking with to reflect on what has been said. In heated or emotionally-charged situations, this moment of reflection can prevent immediate reactions and give space for more thoughtful responses. Cool.

It shows curiosity and openness (even if faked)

Using “interesting” demonstrates that we are curious and open to hearing more about the other person’s perspective. It conveys a willingness to listen and engage in a constructive dialogue. This openness can help encourage more meaningful and productive conversations and in turn, foster better relationships. Handy-helper when faking.

It encourages further explanation

By responding with “interesting,” we invite (without defensiveness) the other person to elaborate on their thoughts and feelings. It’s an invitation for them to explain their reasoning, providing us with more context and insight. This deeper understanding can help us find a common ground and hopefully resolve misunderstandings. An “explain yourself” euphemism. 

It maintains neutrality

“Interesting” is a neutral response that doesn’t commit us to a particular stance. It allows us to acknowledge the other person’s viewpoint without immediately agreeing or disagreeing. This neutrality can be particularly useful in professional settings where maintaining a balanced perspective is ideal or fundamentally necessary. The Switzerland of all words. 

It empowers us to stay calm

Using “interesting” helps us stay calm and composed, especially in difficult or uncomfortable conversations. It provides a buffer that protects our emotional state, enabling us to approach the situation with a clear mind. This calmness can be contagious, helping to de-escalate the emotions of those involved. Xanax in a word.

It promotes critical thinking

Responding with “interesting” encourages us to use our critical thinking skills. It prompts us to consider why the other person holds their viewpoint and what underlying factors may be influencing their perspective. This analytical approach can lead to more effective problem-solving and decision-making. Allows for a different kind of “critical.”

It’s a nifty tension-diffuser

In challenging situations, responding with “interesting” can act as a tension diffuser. Instead of reacting defensively or aggressively, this completely (and surprisingly) neutral word helps to calm the situation. It signals that we are not immediately opposing the other person’s viewpoint, but rather, that we are open to understanding more. Nifty, eh??

I offer some practical examples:

Accusation from Hubbo/Wifey:

Spouse: “I am sick of you always forgetting to put away your shoes and throw your bottle caps in the trash!”

You: “Interesting. I truly hope this does not make you sick, as I love you much too much to see you suffer illness. How are you feeling now, dear?”

Critical feedback about work:

Feedback-giver: “You know, I didn’t really find your article very engaging.“

You: “Interesting. I’d love to hear about how you might have made it more engaging.” (Let’s see if they step up to the high-and-mighty challenge)

An opinion from a parent: 

Parent: “You care too much.”

You: “Interesting. I rather like that I care too much because it’s what makes me me. And I like me. But I wouldn’t want it to affect you in any way. Does it?”

A tornado+thunderstorms causes a 6-day power-outage: 

The devil on one shoulder: “I hate this godforsaken city. Trump is right, the infrastructure in this country is doodoo.”

The angel on your other shoulder: “Interesting point. But I must say, this city has blessed you with angels for neighbors and friends, and to witness their love and support for you has no price. How do you feel about irony?”

Behavior from a child:

Daughter/son: “I don’t like you Mommy or Daddy.”

You: “Interesting. What happened to make you feel this way?”

Incorporating “interesting” into our conversational toolkit can transform the way we handle challenging situations and interactions with difficult situations or people. It is a single word that can create space for reflection, diffuse tension, show curiosity, encourage further explanation, maintain neutrality, empower calmness, and promote critical thinking. Whaaaa. Did you ever think a single word could do all that? Now that you know, tell me, ain’t it interesting?